Life does come in stages, ano? I was trying to remember several things on how transitions go. I knew I was no longer in kindergarten/preparatory school when my Lola stopped pinning my handkerchief in my blouse. This was in Grade 1 when I had to pull my bag with a stroller. In grade 4, I had an oversized shoulder bag. I remember declaring that I'm old enough for a stroller so I said goodbye to mine. I know I have my memory lapses so once in awhile I try to remember what I can from my childhood days. There's always one defining moment (I call it your ticket to something) that makes you move on to the next stage much like in Mario's world where there are entrypoints after each level finished.
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It could be the first time you stopped wearing a "baby bra" and moved to a "real bra". Maybe remember the first time you got your period and people said "Dalaga ka na!". I remember having to wear sportsbra when I was in grade 6 and 7 cos that was the only thing you could wear to get away with the padding. I wore my real bra in 1st year high school and official wore underwired ones in 2nd year high. Most of the time I was a latebloomer. (But hey I was always the fashion lover when I had a real toy sewing machine back in Grade 3, I thought I wanted to sew for the rest of my life yata.) I wore make-up (at least eyeshadow in 2nd year high) cos I was always the one who'd volunteer as the costume designer or make-up artist for classroom plays. Hey I had my first boyfriend in first year high. (But hello, was that even love?! or just the thought of loving the fact that somebody likes you na?). The first time somebody taught me to smoke was in 2nd year high. I remember my best friend Pauline showed me how. I had my first fling in third year high which I thought went on forever. Many many first times which became my ticket to something else.
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Let's see. Remember the time you tried drugs... or was "cured" from substance abuse? All these things are life-changing/defining moments. When you recover from a heartbreak or whatever, it makes you go up a notch to a different level of your life. (Regardless if it's going up or going down...) There are signs and sometimes it feels weird to be in the same place for so long. Then you realize it's no longer doing any good to you and you choose to move on.
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How about when society dictates where you should be at - in life, career, love, etc. These are no longer self-imposed transitions or those transitions caused by nature but dictated by the outside world. Hmmmm, like being in a certain course in college, about getting married at a certain age, having a certain number of children, marrying this certain person, etc. I think one would feel left-out being the only single girl in the group. But how about being the unmarried one in the barkada when the ticket to the lunch/dinner conversation would be marriage and you're far from it??? How about the children's party? I consider this one's entry point to "family life" - having a kid and taking him to somebody else's children's party. This is similar to letting other people meet your new girl, your new wife, yada yada. When you grow older, you no longer talk about your kids but your apos or grandchildren. How can you relate if your only son is not yet married? These are the things when you are forced to be in a certain stage by society.
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Waaaah. But I want things to be done at my own pace. Well who doesn't? But of course one can't say I have plenty of time to go to highschool or college. (This excuse only works for graduate school.) There are certain things you need to be done and certain stages you have to be at ASAP. So is there really a right time for everything? When you're getting older these things become apparent, they add to your worries. Well just go with a flow but set some goals. One cannot be rich by at a certain age, but you can try setting your goals to reach that. Our life cannot always be like what we've dreamt of, but hey we still dream.
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But hey even if life comes in stages and we often fall under age groups and all that, I'd still be loving Hello Kitty for the rest of my life. One could get away being crazy at this age because we are young. There's plenty of time to get serious when we're older. In whatever stage you are in, just enjoooooooooyyyy, syempre!
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