I'm still having that black vest moment. M & I share the same love-hate dramas with a**holes. We're talking about this particular guy our friend dated. He was pretty cool at first until the drama started. He was a grown up 20 something who still had that kind of highschool mindset. Poor boy. I was telling M that girls aren't drama queens. Isn't it normal to feel disappointed once a promise has been broken?
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Here's the usual scenario. Guys would say they'd call, they'd see you soon, blah blah then they'd completely disappear. I mean, why bother? If I am not interested with a certain guy, I'd tell him right away. There's no point in beating around the bush. I hope that guys would do the same. They have this tendency to sugarcoat their lies and serve it straight in a silver platter. My forever strategy is to lay out my cards on the table. Take it or leave it.
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It feels shit being ditched, or being promised something that will never be fulfilled. If you can't make it, then just go straight to the point. Is that too much to ask? Don't say I'll try. Don't say I'll be there then go away. DON'T EVER SAY SOMETHING AND NEVER MEAN IT. It hurts. It's better to say NO than say YES when it really means NO, NEVER, NOT AGAIN. What hurts the most is not the fact that you can't make it, but bcos you pretended you will be there and you had to lie to our face. Girls aren't drama queens. They don't blow things out of proportion. They just want the truth. If you say this, mean it. If you won't mean it, don't bother saying it. It is as simple as that. Guys make it complicated. They want the drama of all the lying and pretending. In fact it's so easy, if it's NO then say NO, NEVER, NOT AGAIN.
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I was once involved with someone who told me the bitter truth that it was over for the of us. It did hurt like hell believe me. I could still remember that day when my good friend K and I stuffed our faces with Cheese pizza. K crimped my hair to make me feel happy and all that. I cried like hell but I moved on. He never heard a single word from me. Then one day, he came back and he was so apologetic about the whole thing. I told him there was nothing to be sorry about. It did hurt like hell but I needed that (not the pain, of course!) but the whole truth. These things... they are actually simple. They need not be complicated. If it's the truth, no matter how much it will hurt, say it then. Do not sugarcoat it.
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Girls hate the brouhaha too... haay kasi naman puwede naman sabihin na di na kita tatawagan kesa sabihin na tatawagan kita promise...!!!! Hahahaha. Puwede naman wag maging kupal, libre naman... pero ewan hindi lang nila maiwasan. Hahahahahahahah.
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Peace and love to all the beloved a**holes M and I are referring to. =P
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